Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Final gathering

August 4, 2014

Dear Friends,

Look at the sky. Can you see the stars? How many do you think there are? Would you dare to count them if you had all the time in the world?

Dear Friends, look across the lake. Did water ever seem so much like glass? Did you view ever look so much like a painting lost in a museum?

Dear Friends. Look at the fire. See how the light and the shadows dance? Hear the sparks pop and tongues of flames laugh?

Dear Friends, close your eyes and listen to the night. The waves, the quiet wind. And here and there the start of the night sounds—here a croak, there a plop.

Dear Friends, listen even closer. Can you hear the breath—in and out, in and out—of those sat around you? The whisper as we move in the sand? Dear Friends, lean in and listen ever closer. Be still for a moment and really listen. Can you hear it? Flitting among us, sparking from shoulder to nose tip to fingernail. From the crown of a head to the knee, back between our ribs pinballing from one to another, deepening into our bones, can you hear it?

Here a scrap of laughter at a joke that still makes us smile three weeks later. There the glint of the sun on the water when we sat on the dock, watching a perfect sunrise. The scrape of the gravel path as we walk through the dark. The discovery of the first of hundreds of toads. Campers’ smiles and the sleepy greetings of counselors on the impossibly long trek to morning flag. Late nights in the CR laughing, Late nights in the CR crying. Those mornings when it’s finally an oatmeal day. Realizing that tonight is your EE. Listening to the drifts of music from the other side of camp to find that your foot is tapping along. The not so quiet whispers of your campers at rest hour. Falling asleep every night to the song of crickets and steady slosh of waves.

Can you hear it? It’s there. The quiet hum of the web of memories, of experiences, the web of friendship that stretches between all of us.


Dear Friends. Thank you.

Dear Friends

July 25th, 2014

Dear Friends, 

It is July 25th, and all I can think about is how soon I will leave you. It is night, and, lying under the clear stars, I am reminded that I can count the nights I have left with you in the way that I cannot count the stars.

At first, all those weeks ago, I doubted that I’d be able to learn all your names and faces. You were all very scary strangers to me. Strangely enough, I now can’t imagine my life without you, and I can’t imagine what I will be doing so far away from you in just a matter of weeks.

It’s cheesy, and it’s true, that you’ve all given me the great first of meeting you and sharing moments of our lives. During those hard days, a smile, a simple smile from you was all I needed to help me out.

A hug. A high five. A smile from across the field.

Acknowledgements that we were in this together even as we kept moving from one place to another meant the world to me it was only then that I had proof that you cared.

And in those moments few and far between when we were able to talk. Talk for real about things that matter to us, I breathed a sigh of relief, knowing that you cared to know me, just as I wanted to learn about who you are and how you are.

In your smiles, your support, your much loved friendship you have given me more gifts than you know. For that, I am eternally grateful.


As I look forward in to the future months and years, all I can say, with tears in my eyes and throat is that I hope you will stay there with me. And that I’ll stay there with you, even once we are gone from the place that brought us together.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

On Being Home

Written 6/02/14

This post was started two weeks ago. I opened up a new page to write...and left it blank for fourteen days. This morning, I realized that I was leaving again. So, it's now or never to talk about coming home, right?

It is, of course, strange to get home. After a year of being away, enough things have change here and enough about me has changed to make it strange to be back in a place so similar and so different.

Sitting in the Chicago O’Hare airport, counting down the minutes until my flight took off, I couldn’t help but stare around me. America jumped out at me from every angle. It’s true, Americans can be picked out in a crowd. We talk a certain way, move a certain way, interact with our surroundings a certain way, we even sit and stand in ways unique to our culture.

And so I came home, home to a place filled with sights and sounds I new so very well. But after many months of being so very far away, they seemed so odd upon my returning to them.  I look around the neighborhood I grew up in and see the big houses and spacious lawns and know without a doubt that I am a part of the haves in the world. And my heart aches because I know the have nots and have seen the small thread that separates one way of life from another. While away, I wanted to change the way I live, to live more lightly upon the earth, but coming home it’s harder amongst the haves to live with less.

Even though its still hard to answer questions about college—no one asks about gap years, and I never know how much to say. But these days when people ask, I have a ready answer when I’m asked what I want to study or what I might want to do. That’s thanks to my time in New Zealand.

And from spending a little time glimpsing into the windows of the world’s cultures, I’ve found that I know a little more about the world. My knowledge of geography has increased exponentially. I can  say thank you in five more languages. But then again, all these gains in worldliness are accompanied by a similar increase in the belief that I am much more worldly than I really am. Cue the place dropping (“This one time in Thailand…)


Here at home, I’ve found myself gravitating toward the important people in my life, eager to spend time with them. And at night, I thinking about those I met all along the way, during a late night game of cards or while volunteering in a garden or while struggling to speak their language. If there is one thing I have learned all this year, it is that the people in this world are amazing. We are so similar and so different all over the world. So many times, I have walked away from an encounter, exclaiming to myself how much I love people. We humans never cease to amaze me.

Sunday, May 18, 2014

SCUBA

Nah Trang is an odd city in the middle of Vietnam. I’d found my way there to do a SCUBA certification course, something I was pretty excited about. I’d dived only once before, in the Virgin Islands on vacation with my family. For the life of me, I can't remember how much I actually learned about SCUBA in the Virgin Islands. I member our instructor telling us about "blood, bones, and air" but he kept it super general. And I don't remember much about entering and exiting the water. When I think back to those two dives my family did, I remember floating among the beautiful and fascinating coral and the strange sound of breathing in and out of the regulator. 

In Nah Trang, I learned a bit more than that. And actually made it through the course. This writer is now a certified beginner diver, certified to dive up to 18 meters. 

I've learned a lot about the more technical things. How to set up the BCD and regulator, about how to know how deep you can go for how long, how long to wait for the next dive. Now I know what to do if I run out of air, and my buddy can't be reached. I've learned about temperature changes in water, and different health risks related to diving (did you know that there is something called nitrogen narcosis that hits you when you get to a depth of 30 meters. You start to act all irrational and silly. Basically, you're high--which freaks some people out, but others love it). During the first dive, floating around in the ocean at 8 meters deep, I understood why people do this for a living. It's so beautiful down there. And it's so peaceful. All you need to do is simply float along and keep breathing and everything will be alright. 

In Nah Trang, the water is so very blue. It's bright like a crystal and unbelievably clear, Putting my head in the water, I can see the coral very easily. It's not too deep where I'd been diving. The first few moments of descent were still a little scary for me. It was so tempting to hold my breath as I began to go down and water crept up to my ears and eyes and over my head. But with the regulator in my mouth, all I had to do is breathe and relax. Being in the water is really cool, even though I'm not very adept at directing myself and controlling my movements yet.

Sound travels fast in the water, so everything sounds strange.


But I love how it sounds. First, there is the ever-present sound of my regulator, the sound of my breath wheezing in and bubbling out. Then there is the crackling. The water is a live with cracks and pops, perhaps the feeding and breathing of marine life all around me. And last is the far off sound of waver, the great deep movement of water, crashing and tumbling way above.

Among Hmong Mountains

Fog rolled into the valley the way a horse gallops. It blew in thick and billowy and sudden, enveloping the world before my eyes. I hadn't had much of a view before, but now my world narrowed into a white mist tunnel. There was the narrow track I was following, a low stone wall to one side, and the vague impression of the packs on the backs of my friends strung out in front of me.

Marveling for perhaps the hundredth time at the beauty of the landscape before me, I kept walking. It was day two of a five day four night trek my friends and I were doing in Sapa, a small town far north in Vietnam. It didn't take long for the mountains to steal my breath. Riding in a van along a bumpy and windy country road from the Lao Cai train station to Sapa a few nights ago, I'd stared out the window, enchanted by the steep green mountainsides and the great terraced rice fields molded into the slopes.

But right then, I couldn't see any of that. It was just me, my pack, the rocky mud track, and the fog.

I'd set off that morning from the small house of our trekking guide, host, and how near friend Mai. Upon arriving in Sapa, we'd met up with Mai and her mom, finalizing our plans for a 5 day trek. The next day, we'd shouldered our newly lightened packs, having left most of our things behind and taken only what we'd need for the next days, we set off. That morning we walked up, up into the mountain tops, up into the clouds.

For travelers in Vietnam, Sapa is a popular place for treks. It's beautiful, but its also where you go to learn about the ethnic minorities in Vietnam. The country has over 50 ethnic minorities scattered throughout the provinces. In Sapa, seven or eight of these peoples can be found in the surrounding villages. It is these people who sell handicrafts in Sapa and who lead treks.

Mai is a Hmong woman. She is thirty years old. She has four kids. She leads treks, makes and sells hand woven and embroidered belts, pouches, and bags in Sapa, farms rice and corn, and loves her children dearly.

If you saw her in Sapa, you probably wouldn't be able to pick her out. The town is filled with young women from the Hmong tribe and other tribes trying to make a living. Most days she wears a traditional Hmong jacked, pants, and leg wrappings, often with a t-shirt underneath. Her fingers are decorated with gold and silver rings her husband makes. He also makes bracelets, beautiful earring, and the silver clips Mai uses to wrap her hair simply around her head.

During that first day, we we trekked up and up and then down on steep rocky tracks and slighter wider dirt roads, Mai was no the only Hmong woman walking with us. There were actually half a dozen Hmong women who joined our group, walking up the steep road with us towards home. We spent the afternoon together, talking, laughing, asking questions. Two of these women carried babies on their backs and we learned about childcare among the Hmong. Two little girls led the way, confidently stepping along the mountain roads. Us westerners bought various things from our new friends before parting ways. (That was most of the reason, I'm sure, why they followed us for so long, but besides some beautifully embroidered things, we left those women after a great afternoon of conversation, laughter, and cultural exchange).

I met many women throughout the trek eager to sell something to us, but they were always just as eager to laugh with us, and point around the mountain valleys, telling us something of their home. One woman, Zoa, with a voice like a songbird, spent an afternoon walking with me, pointing out parts of the valley. Her english was limited, but the words she did know sprang from her mouth like birdsong, twittering and fluttering through the air. She pointed out water buffalo and the mountain path and different villages. It was a good way to spend an afternoon of walking, talking with a new friend.

Up in the Hmong mountains, clouds roll in easily. But every now and then the sky clears up, the fog rolls out. And a beautiful world is revealed.

In the mornings, I sipped coffee while admiring the mountain view. Often, the clouds were lifted in the mornings, letting sunlight stream in, filled the world with color. Every morning, I was reminded how beautiful this place was. The green, soft mountains. The geometry of the rice fields. The distant water falls that whispered or roared. The near laughter of village children.

The mountains were so filled with life, with good, strong, green growing things, and healthy people.

In the evenings, it got dark quickly. And thunder and lighting danced in the skies. It rained every night, filling the dark world with dampness. And I fell asleep to the percussion the rain played against the tin roofs. Rain reminded me of how wild this place still was, how fragile these lives are.

Walking on the second day of the trek, I was surrounded by the fog. Emptying the bowl of coffee I had sipped from that morning, I'd lifted my pack, ready to begin a long day. We were headed to another village, but on the way we would stop and visit one of Mai's family members.

Her grandmother.

It was nearly noon. We'd been walking for a few hours, and the fog had only just started to thin. Mai brought us to her grandmother's house. She left us waiting outside while she stepped in to ask if we could visit. A few minutes later we were all seated inside the dark and smokey house.

There was a cook fire blazing inside, over it were set several pots, and beside the fire sat Mai's grandmother.

She's a tiny woman, like all Hmong. Thin. Wrinkled. But only slightly worn from time. In fact, she looked very, very healthy considering her age.

Mai's grandmother is 120 years old.

I had found myself sitting in the little mountain house of a 120 year old woman.

An hour passed inside that house. We talked while Mai translated, asking questions of the grandmother's life, her family, how things have changed over time. The grandmother picked up her great tobacco pipe and drew in a deep breath. She stood up, setting some food to the side of a bench, moving as if she was years younger. Her hands, gnarled from year of hard work, flexed and gripped easily. She smiled. She blinked her big eyes, looking around at us strange creatures around her fire, there to learn something.

How her world has changed in the last century. The loss she has seen. The violence, the death. All lived through. How the lifestyle of those around her has changed, and not changed, and continued on as it always had. How long the years must feel, stretching out forever behind her. How brief it must feel. For surely only yesterday she was Mai's age, carrying her babies on her back and meeting her husband for the first time. Surely only yesterday she ran through the rice fields the way children do, lightly and unafraid of breaking the tender corn stalks. Her certain hands could work, could cook, could create, familiar with the movements needed to do any work. And her voice. Soft, quiet. Thoughtful. It rumbled up from deep inside, hinting at the young girl, the young woman that once spoke with those same lips, who still live somewhere inside the wise woman I now sat before.

But we could not stay forever. There was a long way yet before we'd reach our beds. And so after many thank yous, we left. Donning our packs, we set off again into the blue mountains, taking with us a piece of the legend we had become a part of.

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

The River

Green.

Green in the water.

Green on the stones.

Green of the trees.

The color of the moment is green.

Under a grey sky, pregnant with rain, the green stands out.

It mixes in with the yellow clay, churning up in bright whirls. It glides in the water, swirling in great streaks. It plops and glops along with each step. It is fed by the river.

I'd been told that rivers are the greatest of artists. Here, it is evident. In the middle of Cambodia, framed by distant hills and stormy skies, the river paints.

Today, yesterday, and five days from now, the color of choice is green. Perhaps the river chooses blue or white or even reds and fright colors of flowers in other times of the year, under different skies. But today, the green of life and death stands out.

The river has been busy

Around it, the Earth sits parched, cracked and dusty red.

But the river looks after its land. It floods and sings and rises again, sweeping fingers of good thirst quenching water over the rocks and soil, letting little fingers of green things frow up in the cracks and dips, all shapes and sizes stark against the yellow earth.

It's a small river, delicate, and as great an artistic force it wields, the river is at risk. Here and there it is stopped up, mud piles up too high, cemented by green glops that have grown up from too much food in the water. Bright squares and scraps of plastic printed on distant machines cover other greens They drape a corner into the water. Some ha e been carried here by the river. Some will be plucked up by a tendril of water to be carried even further.

The water itself is murky. It's filled with the drift of the of the many miles the river has already run. The green takes advantage of the nutrients the water carries. It grows and smells. The water swirls with green tendrils and beaded strings. And in the right light, there are patches laying over the water, some scum that is distinctly not the river.

And yet, it moves on.

Children and grandparents from a nearby village come to bathe and swim. Buckets are brought down in the morning for the day's water. Roosters cluck their way over the rocks.

The children still laugh.

The ferryman still ferries.

The river still paints.

Monday, May 12, 2014

Blue Birthday Cake

Written 4/17/2013

Ocean salt stuck to my skin. Each step I took tore the hole in the crotch of my poor quality pants a little larger. The green strapped flip flops on my feet struck the ground. I hurried along. My strides ate up city block after city block. Since my hands were full, I used my shoulder to wipe sweat out of my eyes.

How much longer until the turn? I wondered. I wasn't bothered by the heat or the long walk. But I looked down at the parcel in my arms. Maybe it didn't appreciate the heat so much.

I was holding a cake. It was carefully packaged up in a box, but it was a cake all the same. A birthday cake--which made it all the more precious.

Yesterday, when I'd bought it, it was beautiful. A round vanilla cake with vanilla icing. But no ordinary icing. It was decorated with beautiful white and blue flowers that were huge. Four of the flowers stood tall, taking up at least half the top of the cake.

It had been in the fridge for the last 24 hours. I doubted that 15 minutes of the outside temperature would do much damaged...but still.

I walked on.

I passed bright western cafes, serving up expensive food. I passed a street stand selling sandwiches and another selling fruit. I passed clothing stores and hostels and pho shops. Here and there were tourists. Vietnamese were scatted about. Both groups of people appeared to feel incongruously at home in their surroundings. The city had never quite chosen an identity. Not quite French or American or Russian, but not quite Vietnamese, it straddles too many worlds. And there I was, in the middle of it, dressed in my now customary uniform of lightweight clothes, holding carefully a birthday cake as I walked from one pat of Nah Trang to another.

Something about this scene struck me as incredible. There I was. In Vietnam. Walking in a new city on my own. Delivering a birthday cake to a wonderful friend I'd only met weeks before.

Despite having spent the last seven months living in any country but the USA, I was still struck occasionally by the miraculous fact that I had repeatedly found myself in the most fabulous of locations, and in the oddest of situations. There I was, walking through Nah Trang with a birthday cake.

Of all places, of all moments I'd dreamed up, this has not been on of them. Even so.

My flip flops struck the broken sidewalk as I stepped down the city's blocks, beautiful blue cake in hand.